"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter."
~Mark Twain
We all know we are of more value than our looks -- after all, we are intelligent, accomplished and giving women -- so WHAT if we get a gray hair or start to sag?
I mean, it's only gravity, right?
So, in my asking myself "why do so many women flip out at the first sign of aging?" I came across an interesting-looking book called :
"Face it: What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change."
The authors - Vivian Diller, Ph.D., a psychologist, and Jill Muir-Sukenick, Ph.D., a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, are both former models, so they've been knee-deep in the trenches of the "beauty equals value" mine-field. Former models can offer some interesting insight, as models have some insane pressure to be youthful and beautiful and STAY that way. They can even "age out" and be too old to model at around 20...and honey, they KNOW that day is a comin'!
The book addresses the emotional changes women go through as we age and how our changing appearance actually...well, messes with our heads. AND it addresses what to DO about it.
In this interview from "Today's Women," the authors talk about the complicated set of emotions underlying an "identity shift" that comes with the aging process.
Did you know we are all going thru all this mumbjo jumbo?
Watch the Today's Women interview from MSNBC
Remember the "Britain's Got Talent" show where Susan Boyle walked on stage and Simon Cowell asked menacingly "How old are you?" Susan confidently stated she was 47. Then she added:
"and that's just one side of me!"
Go Susan Boyle!
And I'm also reminded here again of Carol Maggio's words: that the mind is the most powerful tool you possess as a human being. She says to "Use this tremendous tool to improve your face and your life." Sage words. It's all about confidence, peeps! Knowing when to "let" looks be important, and knowing that looks do NOT define you or create your value. BEAUTY is NOT a currency!
In the end, looks are nothing to OBSESS over -- that doesn't mean you need to give up the maintenance or improvement plan entirely :) and there's nothing wrong with wanting to improve your looks - as long as it's done without FEAR or obsession or the whole "I have to get Botox cuz no one is going to love me if I have these lines on my face." That's NOT healthy thinking!
It's all about scoring a healthy balance and accepting your changing appearance -- nothin' really stops Mother Nature's Hour Glass....that sand keeps a sifting down... and down....and down....hell, that hour glass has a @*&#-load of sand ! :)
Be you, stay cool and stay balanced to accept yourself and your looks at any age!
If you are interested in picking up what sounds like an interesting read in "Face It," you can find it on Amazon.com -- link below.
And please give a shout out to share how YOU feel about getting older and wiser .... let's share and learn from each other and grow! That's what this blog is all about!!
PS: That Mirror Mirror On The Wall thinks you are sexy -- JUST the way you are !!
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